A Poem by Ruth Bell Graham

without clinging
if you must –
but privately cry;
the heart will adjust
in the newness of loving
in practical ways:
and cooking
and sorting out clothes,
all say, “I love you,”
when lovingly done.

So –
without clinging;
cry –
if you must –
but privately cry;
the heart will adjust
to the length of his stride,
the song he is singing,
the trail he must ride,
the tensions that make him
the man that he is,
the world he must face,
the life that is his.

without clinging;
cry –
if you must –
but privately cry;
the heart will adjust
to being the heart,
not the forefront of life;
a part of himself,
not the object –
his wife


By Ruth Bell Graham
From Footprints of a Pilgrim

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  1. Jimmy says:

    Love Jesus

  2. Doreen says:

    Awesome! So much to learn about love. 💗💓💞

  3. Ralph W Graham says:

    I am 66 years old. I heard Billy Graham when I was 8 or 9 years old on the TV. He had done a lot for the great Lord. He has a lots of gifts in Heaven that no ones know about but God.

  4. Dorothy M. Murray says:

    I am so grateful for Dr. Graham’s life of faithful commitment to God. I first heard Dr. Graham at Olympia Stadium in Detroit, MI. I was too young to attend with the Youth Fellowship group from our church but since my parents were attending as chaperones (my brother was in the group) I got to go. Dr. Graham was just beginning his ministry. Now at 85 I still remember his passion for leading others to Christ and his faithfulness to God exemplified by his life. What a tremendous example for all of us!!!!

  5. Brenda Brooks says:

    Beautiful poem,such love.

  6. Martha Staton says:

    Beautiful poem written by Ruth Graham.
    Touched my heart.

  7. Dr Frank Lowell Rice says:

    That is what all married couples need to live by. Very beautiful and touching to the Heart. Blessings to ALL

  8. Jean Boyer Digerness says:

    What a lovely and true poem all of we wives can take a lesson from…love no matter what is happening, no matter if he isn’t home doing business trave, every line is like the lining of my heart. Just knowing they are together is enough and knowing how they love all the family.

  9. Tammy says:

    That was beautiful. We as wives and mothers must understand our husbands’ good intentions. Our hearts will eventually adjust to all understanding through Christ Jesus.

  10. Cindy Ballard says:

    Beautiful ❤️

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